stress management

I’m Stressing the Children I Don’t Even Have Yet

Photo credit: Olimpia Zagnoli

I lead a pretty stressful life — I like to work, I like to work hard, and I like to be involved in a lot of activities — coupled with a high sense of responsibility and accomplishment — yup, I have a lot of stress.

So imagine my “stress” when I read this article in the NY Times,
Inheriting Stress, which explores the question: Can children inherit stress from their mother? My initial thought, “YIKES!”

WE intuitively understand, and scientific studies confirm, that if a woman experiences stress during her pregnancy, it can affect the health of her baby. But what about stress that a woman experiences before getting pregnant — perhaps long before?

It may seem unlikely that the effects of such stress could be directly transmitted to the child. After all, stress experienced before pregnancy is not part of a mother’s DNA, nor does it overlap with the nine months of fetal development.

Nonetheless, it is undeniable that stress experienced during a person’s lifetime is often correlated with stress-related problems in that person’s offspring — and even in the offspring’s offspring. Perhaps the best-studied example is that of the children and grandchildren of Holocaust survivors. Research shows that survivors’ children have greater-than-average chances of having stress-related psychiatric illnesses like post-traumatic stress disorder, even without being exposed to higher levels of stress in their own lives. — excerpt from article

Okay, okay, okay. So I don’t have any kind of post-traumatic stress, but the piece goes on to explore if the stress has an impact on parenting style?

I’m always concerned about the amount of stress in my life–  barring the impact to my future children, I know that its not very helpful to me, but the thought of my stress potentially having this kind of ripple effect, takes stress management to a whole… ‘nother.. level.

I met with a friend last week and she swears by yoga and feels that it has made positive changes to her life and her sense of stress. I’ve always viewed it as just a means of exercise, but she urged me to get into the meditative pieces of it as well (maybe Bikram is out?), but silly as it may sound, I have a new found motivation.

Even if there is no link — we all know the benefits of a life with less stress.

The battle goes on… how to “relax, relate, release” … but still maintain my “intense” and competitive edge with my career. Could meditating be the answer?

Do you have employees who have this truly mastered, or is just as elusive as a purple cow?

Still searching… 🙂






Photo credit: Olimpia Zagnoli


Relax — And Fast! 8 Quick Tricks For Stress Relief

Stress is something that I hone in on — I seem to have no shortage of it in my life — and I don’t even have kids yet! Seriously, there are so many triggers to all the negative health triggers of stress to you — and to your overall productivity and wellness at work.

So I wanted to share these 8 quick tricks! You can used them most anywhere.

Relax,Relate, Release!  Take it easy!

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We all have a little (or maybe a whole lot of) stress in our lives. The way we deal with that stress is crucial to our well-being.

Put simply, high stress levels can lead to unwanted weight gain. Stress promotes the production of a hormone called cortisol, which increases your appetite for foods high in sugar, carbohydrates and fat. (Translation: weight gain!) Even worse is that the weight gain is typically centered around the stomach, and this type of fat is closely linked to heart disease and stroke. Research has consistently linked belly fat to high cortisol levels, especially in women

via Relax — And Fast! 8 Quick Tricks For Stress Relief.

Its Not News Its a Distraction: Brett’s Angry Dance

Free off the heels of the “How Do You Deal with Stress” post… I thought I’d post the video to Brett’s Angry Dance — and if you haven’t already seen or heard of the Flight of the Conchords — I totally recommend — laughing is always a good way to relieve some stress!

Its not news, its a distraction! Yours, thegirlinhr

How Do You Deal with Stress

I am always looking for ways to deal with stress… I found these five suggestions from how The Peaceful Mom” deals with stress —

  1. Eat Chocolate!
  2. Exercise-I decided to start running
  3. Order Pizza-
  4. Refuse to Cook
  5. Eat Cashews-I recently found out that eating 10 cashews a day has the same effect on your brain chemistry as taking one Prozac.

via Top Five Ways to Deal with Stress.

This made me think.. what are some of the things that I do to de-stress (I should probably do more of them :))

I didn’t have a top five — but I did have 12 that came to mind

  1. Get active — Go for a jog/walk/yoga (I prefer Bikram)
  2. Listen to music (and sometimes I “dance it out” — ala Flight of the Conchords or Grey’s Anatomy — okay so many not exactly like Bret from the Conchords, but ya know what I mean)
  3. Get a massage
  4. Goof off on FaceBook/Internet– I play this stupid game called Zombie Island and looking at updates from my friends and their families always makes me smile (hit me up if you also play Zombie Island — just kidding! No, but seriously… )
  5. Get a mani or pedi
  6. take a break from “thinking” — Read a trashy magazine or Watch mindless tele (some great reality tv that falls into this one — my only challenge is stopping)
  7. Play with my dogs — they are so full of love
  8. Cook or Bake — different than cooking dinner every night, but something new and exotic always gives me something else to focus on. Often times I’ll make something and I’ll give it to my neighbors. And sometimes just finding potentials things to try or updating my Sunday Domestic Diva blog gives me the same feeling
  9. Plan a party of event — sounds like more work or stress — but event planning “fills my bucket”
  10. Go to dinner with my sweetie
  11. Spend some time with friends
  12. Wine! (can’t believe that wasn’t #1)  😉

What about you– have some to share — or think something on one of the list is just weird or batty?

Not sure where to start — you may find this helpful (curious to see how sleep didn’t make either one of our lists — is it on yours)

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