I’ve come across this video a few times in my news-feed this week and finally got the chance to watch it. I posted a blog – years ago- about the beauty premium and I thought about that as I finished up the video clip.
I’ve listened to the end about 5 times and the line “…that was never a comedy for me” just really sticks with me.
Ladies — do you feel it? A pressure to be “attractive” or more attractive than you are or at least as attractive as you can be?
Do you feel like you are treated differently depending on how “attractive you are?”
Yesterday, I would have said, “I’m a lady who doesn’t care about looks and I’d be silly to care. What you see is what you get. I want to be judged on my mind and personality, not on what I look like.” I rarely wear makeup, except mascara and lip gloss/chapstick. I often wear my hair in a ponytail or bun to work. I wear t shirts and flip flops to the office (yup still can’t shake those flip flops). My sense of fashion has been questioned on more than one occasion (I call it “power clashing” or “the messy professor”). I get dolled up for special occasions. People do a double take when they see photos of my from when I’m outside of work and I have my hair done and makeup on and they ask, “is that you?!?!”
But today, after watching the video and giving it some thought — Am I a Tootsie? Do I wear the badge of ugly duckling proudly because I’ve given in and been brainwashed too. “Hey I don’t measure up to society’s thoughts of attractiveness, but look at my big brain and incredibly quick wit?” Or am I just proudly waving my freak flag and keeping it weird? Its Saturday morning and I’m confused. 🙂
Confusion is a good thing because that leads to discussion! I want to delve a bit deeper into the role of attractiveness and how we perceive ourselves and others? Is there really a difference? And let’s reprise the topic of the “beauty premium.”